We all have our “perfect date attribute” wish lists. Some are short and succinct; some could fill a book (so much for realistic expectations, right?). But the truth is that all of us can name a few traits that are essential for our next romantic partner — whether we admit them or not!
According to many common cultural stereotypes, men put more value on a partner’s physical appearance and passion, while women put financial stability and faithful commitment at the top of their romantic checklists. While there’s usually a grain of truth in those beliefs, the reality probably lies somewhere in the middle — i.e., with men and women valuing similar features in their partners, but perhaps they’re prioritizing (and, in some cases, defining) them differently.
Out of all the possibilities, what’s the most important trait that men absolutely, positively must have in a new relationship? I spoke with several single guys to find out. In their own words, hear how they — sometimes after years of dating and self-exploration — discovered the one thing that they care about the most in matters of the heart.
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No RUSH in getting MARRIED
Last night when we were having our family dinner, I asked my parents... "Mom, Dad, how come I still don't have someone to introduce to you?" - which means I don't have a boyfriend that I could actually say that I'm proud of.
My Mom told me that they're not rushing me to get married or something... They even warned my sister who is younger than me but already has a boyfriend.
I'm enjoying my young life at the age of 21 turning 22.
I'm growing and improving in my career. My family continuously serves God. I know who my real friends are. What else can I ask for? Maybe just someone to truly love me...?
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Pueblo de Panay Santacruzan 2012
Join Pueblo de Panay township and local designers as we celebrate the much-awaited annual May Festival of "Santacruzan" (Holy Cross) Festival in Roxas City!
WATCH charming and talented ABS-CBN artist Ms. CHAREE PINEDA (Cinema One Originals' 2008 "Best Actress Awardee") represent Queen Helena as she parades Roxas City's avenues together with a retinue of Capicena beauties. This festivity commemorates Queen Helena and son Constantine's finding of the mythical Holy Cross of Jesus in Jerusalem.
COME and see Christianity's history re-unfolding in our midst on May 26, 2012, 5PM. Procession starts from Parish of Mt. Carmel, Mission Road, going to Pueblo de Panay township', Lawaan. Program & fireworks follow the procession at the township development.
For dinner reservations, contact Urban Manor Hotel at 522-4018 or Festa Resto at 6216-658. Major and minor sponsorships are still open c/o Frances (+63 908 6761237). Proceeds shall be donated to a worthy cause by Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Parish, Roxas City.
Be updated of more details, only here at Pueblo de Panay, Roxas City!
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Skype & CP
Anyone there from the Philippines?
Can I ask for you cell number? Hehe...
Anyone who has skype?
Add me: elie.cinders
Please be patient with me if I cant reply your comments and accept your requests...
I have been quite busy with work ^^,
Plus, I don't have my own personal computer... Only office computer... Hehe...
At least I'm allowed to use social networking sites for Marketing Purposes...
Guys, keep in touch, aight?
I love my anime friends :D
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Self Expression - Cutting Oneself
I don't get it... In order to feel pain, people cut themselves... having their skin opened, exposed to bacteria, dust, sunlight, etc. For what? To let out the pain felt inside?
I really don't get it...
My father gets furiously hysterical when he finds out I injured myself in any way... He doesn't want me hurt... How much more if I purposely hurt myself... He hates that... He wants me to take care of my body, eluding myself from any physical injury. But of course, sometimes you just can't easily out wit such incidents in life.. He just sorrily looks at me when it happens.
I know my father loves me. He just doesn't want me to get hurt or injured in any way. But how 'bout those who purposely hurt themselves? Doesn't anyone love them and tell them to STOP cutting theirselves?
JUST A THOUGHT~
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Summer Rain
Clouds are covering the sun,
I could still feel pain,
I wish it would be gone,
Then came the summer rain.
I feel so desperate,
I feel so rejected,
I wish I could find an inspiration,
I need to find a solution.
I can't hesitate,
I could never wait,
I'm mentally deranged,
It just won't fade.
Raindrops start to fall,
Dear heaven is crying,
Seems relief won't call,
Now the winds are singing.
A sad song they're making.
Reflecting my misery,
Under the rain I kept walking,
Thinking life is a great mystery.
Down went the raindrops.
Down went my tears.
Everything sympathize in sorrow,
There would never be tomorrow,
Deceived by the abiding pain,
As I walk through the summer rain.
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Finding the Unknown
The wind touching my face-
As I looked at the sea,
Thinking something out of place,
What could it be?
Trying to recall,
As if I've seen it all,
I should've done something more,
Yet I try to ignore.
Words spinning in my head,
While lying in my bed,
Visions visit my unconscious mind,
Something I should find.
Emptiness is felt,
Loneliness came,
Shouting for help,
Like being trapped in a game.
Anyone please tell me,
Will I ever be happy?
When can I be free?
From this unbearable misery.
My soul is gone with the wind
I am nothing
I am now dying,
Well at least I learned to dream.
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Shoutout
Hello to my friends as of Feb 8, 2012 12:50PM
MEEKO - the owner of the business., hehe
IKEDIH - my CANADIAN admirer
N3J3H - my Phil Anime Sis
danielle9816 - my new lil sis
PikaPrincess - my PINK friend :)
tibadukes - Rapper ; wanted to have a bold name :p
Tinkelini - the cute one :D
crysonfell - orchestra dude
cuzuco
Ginger_Link
DanaSkype770
Ebony
PinkPanda
kaitonic
alexmaison98
TeamToshiro
ninja david
Niomi Blair
natsumi
crimson_blade
dropdead911
laii
IvyStarr
with money you can buy a house but not a home
a clock but not time, a bed but not sleep
a book but not knowledge, see a doctor but not good health
buy a position but not respect, blood but not life
sex but not love..
people but not FRIENDS...
I love you guys!
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Hidden Feelings '06
Is it wrong to love?
With a heart so pure as the wings of the dove.
Why do I care for you?
Loving, 'till dear life is through.
Never could I ever forget,
The day when our eyes met.
I could never keep my eyes on the book.
Coz in your eyes, I always want to look.
A little voice in me keeps saying,
"Tell him what's your feeling."
But I keep on thinking,
He might think I'm joking.
I want to shout it to the seas,
"I love you"
I want to whisper it to the breeze,
"I love you"
I want to tell it to the earth,
"I love you."
But why is it so hard to say,
Just a very simple phrase
" I love you"
'Till dear life is through.
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Philippine rescuers search for quake survivors
Rescuers in the Philippines dug through rubble with shovels and their bare hands Tuesday after a powerful earthquake triggered landslides, collapsed homes and killed dozens of people.
The 6.8-magnitude quake hit a narrow strait between the heavily populated islands of Negros and Cebu around lunchtime Monday with more than 200 aftershocks, some nearly as strong, causing further panic throughout the day.
Local military chiefs said 43 people were confirmed killed, but officials warned the death toll may rise. Dozens of others are feared injured or missing with landslides having blocked roads for rescuers in mountainous areas.
"Heavy equipment we've requested from the provincial government has not arrived yet, because the roads and bridges are impassable," said Senior Inspector Alvin Futalan, police chief of Guihulngan town on Negros that was among the most heavily damaged.
"We are using our hands and shovels to search in the rubble," he told AFP.
Thirty-nine people were reported killed in Guihulngan, a coastal city of 100,000 people flanked by mountains that was close to the quake's epicentre.
The city's public market, court house and private homes in the area had collapsed or were damaged, while landslides buried some houses completely, according to Fatulan.
He said the city's overwhelmed 42-man police rescue squad had been joined by hundreds of army troops and volunteers in clearing debris as they raced against time to find people still believed missing.
"The army (troops) had to walk about 50 kilometres (30 miles) from the last stop reachable by vehicle to reach us," Fatulan said.
Guihulngan is about 90 kilometres to the north of Dumaguete, the capital of Negros Oriental province that covers the southeastern edge of Negros where the worst impacts of the quake were felt.
With rescuers still to reach remote hinterland communities, Negros Oriental governor Roel Degamo said he feared there could be more unreported casualties.
"Sadly, we expect the death could still rise," Degamo told AFP.
Degamo said telephone communications in some parts were also cut off, leaving information from remote regions unobtainable.
He said the public was still in a state of shock and fearful of returning to their homes after dozens of aftershocks.
"We've also had to stop our search efforts from time to time and run to safety because of the aftershocks," he said.
Cebu, the Philippines' second biggest city with 2.3 million residents and a popular tourist destination, was 50 kilometres from the epicentre and shook violently during the initial tremor but no deaths were reported there.
The Philippines sits on the Pacific "Ring of Fire" -- a belt around the Pacific Ocean where friction between shifting tectonic plates causes frequent earthquakes and volcanic activity.
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Almost Valentines
Hey, it's almost valentines.,
I dunno if I should be happy or not...
You can't choose the one you love.,
But it's your choice to love that person or not.,
Sometimes, I'm having doubts if I really should continue?
*confused*
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Searching
Lost...
That's what I feel...
Where am I? What is that light from afar?
I extended my hand trying to reach that spark...
But I stumbled and then it went pitch black...
I closed my eyes... hoping it would be less dark... but it's no use...
I wrapped my arms around me... Even my own hands feel cold...
I tried to open my eyes... but still, I see nothing...
Where am I? I ask again but I hear no voice from me...
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Ice Cream
Someone bought me an ice cream yesterday here in the office.,
It was flattering and cute! Haha., :D
He even gave me my fave type of ice cream., *giggles
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Falling In Love
You and me, we got along just fine
But deep inside I know there is more
Right next to you
I know you're the right one
Can't fight this feeling, I'm taking chances now
In my heart I feel that this is something real
I don't wanna let this moment go
(CHORUS 1)
Why oh Why, Do I feel this way?
When I'm with you I feel so alive
Why oh Why, will I hide away
I can't help it
I'm FALLING IN LOVE with you
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsty.com/six-part-invention-falling-in-love-lyrics.html ]
Never ending nights when I'm alone with you
A lifetime of dreams coming true
Nothing comes close to what we have right now
You're the only one that matters now
In my heart I feel that this is something real
I don't wanna let this moment go
(CHORUS 2)
What if I fall in love?
What if I make you mine?
I wanna know if you'll be there by my side
(CHORUS 3)
You and me, we got along just fine
But deep inside I know there
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A Letter to the One that God has prepared for me
"I am wondering at this very minute if you are thinking of me, if like me, you are wondering what is taking us so long to find each other. Many times I thought I finally found you only to be disillusioned by the fact that my wait has not yet ended. I get up each morning hoping, dreaming, longing to meet you.
I am thinking of how we will meet, would it be as romantic as the ones I have seen in movies? Or is it possible that I have known you all my life but we have yet to realize that we are meant for each other? Oh how I wish you were here right now because you are the only one who has the answers to all my questions.
Sometimes I ask myself if I have ever really known "love". I do not have the answer to that question either but I believe that, more often than not, we will never really know what love is until we find that right person…. and since I have not found you yet, then maybe I do not really know what love is!
You just don't know how often I dream of finally knowing what it feels like to be in your arms. Even at this very moment I am imagining how you will simply sweep me off my feet! Perhaps I would be drawn to you by your smile, or your eyes, or maybe even how you manage to make me laugh by your silly little ways!
I don't really know for sure but I am praying that God will help me recognize you when the right time comes. I think of all the pain that I have gone through in the past and of how much I have cried since the day I began my search. I just wanted you to know that I find my strength in clinging onto my vision of the beautiful life ahead of me — the life I shall spend with you. In my mind and in my heart I know that you are worth all that pain and sacrifice.
After all, the tears have become a part of my life and I believe that they are slowly washing away my flaws so that I would become perfect, not perfect in its truest sense, but perfect — for YOU! I wonder if you've gone through so much pain as well. I wonder if you've been hurt so many times along the journey.
But my dearest one, please don't ever give up because I am right here… patiently waiting for you! I assure you that when we finally find each other I would slowly heal those wounds by my love.
At night, I would look out my window and stare at the beautiful sky, hoping that somehow you are also looking up and wondering about me. I utter a silent prayer and send all my cries to the heavens above thinking that in time they would reach you. And when I feel impatient, I just close my eyes and believe that you are on your way and that you are longing to see me as well. It is funny but when I finally fall asleep, it is still you that I think of, for you are always in my dreams. It seems that, for now, that is the only place where I can hold on to you, long enough to tell you how much I love you. In my dreams you would kiss away my fears and wrap me with your arms of love.
And this, all the more, makes me want to wake up and face the new day ahead with the hope that soon enough, you will no longer be a dream but a reality and once again I am assured that you are worth the wait. And when that time comes, everything will fall into its place, just as I had imagined, just as I had thought and dreamed, just as I had believed it would be! By then, I would simply look back and smile at all that I have gone through, in spite of the pain and amidst the simple joys of life — and I would be very thankful because they all led me to you!
In the meantime, take care of yourself for me. Hold on to our dream and don't even think of letting go. Believe in your heart that we will find each other no matter what happens. God has planned the course and it is up to us to follow the directions. Don't worry, don't be afraid about getting lost, God saw to it that all the roads, no matter which one you choose to follow, lead to me."
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Frustrated Composer
I give authority to those who ask permission in using my written works...
But I HATE it when they tend to change what I wrote making the idea different from what it originally designates.
T.T
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For My Late Granddad to be read by my Father
In war, there are no unwounded soldiers.
Our beloved father, ISIDRO MAUNES, have encountered many wars. His battlefield is life itself, his friends are his allies, his trials are his adversaries. But no matter how many bomb fields, uncharted courses and endless explosives, this soldier STOOD HIS GROUND.
His battle here on earth may be over but his grandeur remains in each and every one of us. From a son to our proud grandparents, to becoming a young lad and then a father to his children, and a contented grandfather to his grandchildren, this soldier has surely stood by us despite of all the trials and circumstances.
The best soldiers are not warlike
Our father has always been a loving sort to us. He maybe strict at times, but that’s what fathers are all about. Their strict, but they care. J
There are times that he is misunderstood in different cases. But bottom line of everything, he’s still our father, our brother, our friend and grandfather who is devoted to only give the best for his loved ones.
Old soldiers never die, they just fade away.
Whatever he lacked during his lifetime be forgiven so that not only he will rest in peace but also our hearts. He is not just a soldier, but a General. Only his earthly body fades away, but it is his statutes, principles, standards, good works and his way of inspiring people that never dies.
We love you, Papa.
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Notice ME!!!
Almost done with my work.,
and there's another MOUNTAIN to climb!
Waaaahhhh! *cries
I want chocolate!!!
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Balancing Act
I can't figure out where I've gone wrong!!!
I've followed the instruction and information and procedure!
I still can't find the missing pieces of Where, Why and How!
I wish my mentor was here.,
I can't do this alone., *cries*
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Lunch Break
.,finally., time for sleep!
haha., i wish i could just dream all day and dream all night.,
but hey, we're living in a REAL world.,
whether we like it or not., we just have to WAKE UP!
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He said: “My relationship has to have ____”
by David Singleton
“She needs to be attractive”
Washingtonian Tim, 36, is quite blunt about what he’s looking for: “She needs to be attractive. For most guys, I bet it’s the same. At first glance, I definitely notice a woman’s looks. That’s the initial spark… and after we’ve been together awhile — even when the initial spark wears off and we’re used to each other — I still like it when she makes an effort for me.” True, this supports the stereotype of men primarily being drawn to a woman’s good looks, but the new twist lies in how that might play out over a longer-term relationship. Tim himself said that good looks are tied to making an effort for your partner; in other words, it’s not necessarily about resembling a supermodel or looking exactly as you did the night you met but the effort itself that counts.
A study published in a recent issue of the Journal of Family Psychology supports this idea of how looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction stage, though in a different way. The same study suggests that the physical attractiveness of men isn’t as paramount to women, who zero in on a guy’s ability to offer support and stability, especially in a partner.
“I want to be loved for who I am, not what I can provide”
Marylander Sam, 34, says: “I want a woman who wants me, not one who needs me. I want her to love me for me. I can tell [when] a woman is just interested in the externals, which in my book are the equivalent of being in love for money, appearances, or out of desperation. I’ve dated women who were more into those three [things] than into [who I am as a person]. I don’t want to be looked at like I’m a bank, a daddy on demand, or a means to an end of any kind.” The takeaway lesson here is that men are looking for an authentic connection and really notice its absence. “I’d rather have a real woman who is into me than some idealized version… who wants me to be Ken to her Barbie,” explains Sam.
“For me, physical affection is essential”
Sometimes there’s a misperception that men just want to jump into bed. While it’s definitely important (an understatement, perhaps?), men also want to share everyday simple, physical connections — a hug, a touch, a kiss — with their partners. “My friends couldn’t understand when I broke up with my last girlfriend, who I dated for a year before realizing that this was not it,” says Bostonian Anthony, 31. “She was hot, smart and had a lot of good qualities, but I really ended up craving affection. After an initial couple of months that were very touchy-feely, she became a little cold. It was all about my missing feeling the physical connection in regular, daily ways.” Warmth and touch really count in forming romantic bonds.
“She has to get my jokes and sense of humor”
Dare I say that humor is an oft-unrecognized but key element of male-centric flirting? That may be a new way of expressing it, but it does exist. “I really like to laugh and have fun,” says Washingtonian Mike, 28. “Life is heavy enough. I work really hard. At the end of the day, yes, I want her to be sexy and for us to have things in common, but I want to laugh, too. It’s been hard to find a woman who laughs with me as much as I want. I’ve dated women who just didn’t get my sense of humor and the relationships always fizzled. I cite that as a big reason.” Laughter stokes a man’s ego when he’s trying to entertain, makes him feel understood, and puts him at ease in a way that few other expressions do, because it makes a man feel powerful. What’s a bigger turn-on than that for any man?
“My next girlfriend has got to be straightforward and patient”
“If you’d asked me this question 10 years ago, I would have responded with ‘good-looking’ or maybe ‘passionate’ for my answer,” says Floridian Peter, 39. “But after a string of failed relationships, I know better what really matters now. When I’m dating a woman, I care about physical attraction and excitement, but in the back of my mind, I’m definitely seeing how she responds to challenges. Does she wig out over small things? Do I constantly have to calm her down or reassure her when things don’t go her way? Does she approach our differences straightforwardly by telling me how she feels in a fairly rational way, or is she a passive-aggressive pouter? I don’t care how beautiful she is; if a woman frustrates me, acts out irrationally or makes me feel like I need to be a mind-reader, I’m outta there. My next girlfriend has got to be chilled out and patient.”
Any guy who’s been out there dating for a while (and maybe had a few bad breakups along the way) is going to have his own set of red flags. And, like Peter, many men want a woman who won’t play minds games with them in relationships.
Article courtesy of Happen magazine, www.happenmag.com.
Washingtonian Tim, 36, is quite blunt about what he’s looking for: “She needs to be attractive. For most guys, I bet it’s the same. At first glance, I definitely notice a woman’s looks. That’s the initial spark… and after we’ve been together awhile — even when the initial spark wears off and we’re used to each other — I still like it when she makes an effort for me.” True, this supports the stereotype of men primarily being drawn to a woman’s good looks, but the new twist lies in how that might play out over a longer-term relationship. Tim himself said that good looks are tied to making an effort for your partner; in other words, it’s not necessarily about resembling a supermodel or looking exactly as you did the night you met but the effort itself that counts.
A study published in a recent issue of the Journal of Family Psychology supports this idea of how looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction stage, though in a different way. The same study suggests that the physical attractiveness of men isn’t as paramount to women, who zero in on a guy’s ability to offer support and stability, especially in a partner.
“I want to be loved for who I am, not what I can provide”
Marylander Sam, 34, says: “I want a woman who wants me, not one who needs me. I want her to love me for me. I can tell [when] a woman is just interested in the externals, which in my book are the equivalent of being in love for money, appearances, or out of desperation. I’ve dated women who were more into those three [things] than into [who I am as a person]. I don’t want to be looked at like I’m a bank, a daddy on demand, or a means to an end of any kind.” The takeaway lesson here is that men are looking for an authentic connection and really notice its absence. “I’d rather have a real woman who is into me than some idealized version… who wants me to be Ken to her Barbie,” explains Sam.
“For me, physical affection is essential”
Sometimes there’s a misperception that men just want to jump into bed. While it’s definitely important (an understatement, perhaps?), men also want to share everyday simple, physical connections — a hug, a touch, a kiss — with their partners. “My friends couldn’t understand when I broke up with my last girlfriend, who I dated for a year before realizing that this was not it,” says Bostonian Anthony, 31. “She was hot, smart and had a lot of good qualities, but I really ended up craving affection. After an initial couple of months that were very touchy-feely, she became a little cold. It was all about my missing feeling the physical connection in regular, daily ways.” Warmth and touch really count in forming romantic bonds.
“She has to get my jokes and sense of humor”
Dare I say that humor is an oft-unrecognized but key element of male-centric flirting? That may be a new way of expressing it, but it does exist. “I really like to laugh and have fun,” says Washingtonian Mike, 28. “Life is heavy enough. I work really hard. At the end of the day, yes, I want her to be sexy and for us to have things in common, but I want to laugh, too. It’s been hard to find a woman who laughs with me as much as I want. I’ve dated women who just didn’t get my sense of humor and the relationships always fizzled. I cite that as a big reason.” Laughter stokes a man’s ego when he’s trying to entertain, makes him feel understood, and puts him at ease in a way that few other expressions do, because it makes a man feel powerful. What’s a bigger turn-on than that for any man?
“My next girlfriend has got to be straightforward and patient”
“If you’d asked me this question 10 years ago, I would have responded with ‘good-looking’ or maybe ‘passionate’ for my answer,” says Floridian Peter, 39. “But after a string of failed relationships, I know better what really matters now. When I’m dating a woman, I care about physical attraction and excitement, but in the back of my mind, I’m definitely seeing how she responds to challenges. Does she wig out over small things? Do I constantly have to calm her down or reassure her when things don’t go her way? Does she approach our differences straightforwardly by telling me how she feels in a fairly rational way, or is she a passive-aggressive pouter? I don’t care how beautiful she is; if a woman frustrates me, acts out irrationally or makes me feel like I need to be a mind-reader, I’m outta there. My next girlfriend has got to be chilled out and patient.”
Any guy who’s been out there dating for a while (and maybe had a few bad breakups along the way) is going to have his own set of red flags. And, like Peter, many men want a woman who won’t play minds games with them in relationships.
Article courtesy of Happen magazine, www.happenmag.com.
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Kung Hei Fat Choi
It's Chinese New Year here in the Philippines.,
Kinda lonely though., being here in the office.,
Hehe., Oh well, that's life.,
I do hope I could finish here soon.,
